Wednesday, 1 October 2014

Dangled Carat - Hilary Grossman

About the book...
Hilary had gotten used to dating the commitment-phobic Marc, thirteen years her senior. They had a great relationship-why rush into things? She saw no need to pressure him for marriage, believing that when the time was right, he would propose. But after they had been together for four years, their friends decided to take matters into their own hands, pushing Marc to propose and making Hilary realize how much she really did want to marry the man that she loved. Unfortunately, Marc still wasn't ready-and their friends' meddling in the form of a faux engagement party led to a disastrous New Year's Eve that brought their relationship to an inevitable turning point.
In this relatable, lighthearted, and playful memoir, Hilary reminisces about her life before Marc-from the insecure and awkward teenage years she spent in a back brace and dealing with the loss of her father, to her early relationships and, finally, to the day she met Marc and realized that she really wanted to see him again. Through their first date-even though Hilary was technically seeing someone else at the time-and the ease of their early time together until Marc first decided that they were moving too quickly, up until that fateful New Year's Eve, Hilary shares the details of their relationship and how Marc's inability to commit led her to find an inner strength and confidence she didn't know she possessed.
For anyone who has ever dated a commitment-phone  who has found their patience wearing thin with the one they love, or who has sat around wondering if he is ever going to pop the question while trying to remain the very picture of patience and grace , Hilarys humorous and honest story will hit home.

About the author...
Hilary Grossman dated a guy so commitment-phobic that she was able to write a book about their relationship.  She has an unhealthy addiction to denim and shoes.  She loves to find humor in every day life.  And she likens life to a game of dodgeball - she tries to keep many balls in the air before they smack her in the face. When she isn't writing or blogging she is the CFO of a beverage alcohol importer.  She lives on Long Island.

Author Links:

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My thoughts...
I was originally given a copy of this book way back by the author and like many bloggers didn't get round to reading it straight away because of the ever growing TBR pile.  However, when Samantha the organiser of CLP Blog Tours was organising a blog tour I jumped at the chance.  It'd make me push the book up the pile at the same time as hopefully promoting the book for Hilary.

The book revolves around Hilary (the author) and Marc, her commitment phobic partner.  I'm sure there are many books out there that are based on real life experiences but not many authors openly admit that their book is based on their own experience dating a man that just wasn't ready to take the plunge despite the often hilarious interfering from their family and friends made for interesting reading.

It felt a little strange yet at the same time made for compulsive reading to be so up close and personal with an authors romantic relationship! Just like in real life decisions and thoughts about Hilary and Marc's relationship were made instantly and without background information.

It was all too easy to paint Marc as the black sheep who so very clearly had an ulterior notice for holding off the proposition and Hilary does a fantastic job in ensuring her readers think the same as her family and close friends did too. The only person who seemed to know and understand him and never push the subject was in fact Hilary.  Although she did enjoy watching him squirm when his closest friends brought up the subject of marriage.

Things are never exactly what they seem and Hilary cleverly peels back the layers of the relationship to slowly reveal the couples true characters and feelings for each other.  To lay bare your relationship for scrutiny by readers is in my opinion an extremely brave thing to do. 

If you'd like to read a chick lit book with a difference I'd highly recommend it.  This book highlights the difference between 'saying' and 'doing'.  Is a wedding ring and all that goes with it important if a relationship is just based on words or are the things we do for each other, thoughtfulness and consideration more important?  This book demonstrates the difference and gives plenty of food for thought.

Thank you Hilary for baring your soul and sharing what would be, for most of us our most private thoughts - done sensitively get with real passion and humour.